Firstborn ;Blessing or Burden ?

Written by ;Patricia

Frankly, being a firstborn is both a blessing and a burden.

The fact of being given the first priority in everything is a blessing. The younger ones, even when not trained to show respect to you, they automatically show it with ease. You become the star of the family. All trust and belief is on you.

But wait, here comes the worst part of it. Burden.

The parents expect so much from you. Character-wise, in decision making. In short, you are the second parent to your siblings.

At a tender age, you have to learn many things. Psychologically, you have to grow faster than your age. At eight years or seven, you already know how to cook, wash and clean everything. Some you are taught, but other chores, circumstances force you to learn all by yourself.

You learn to stand in the gap for the young ones; sacrifice. When they make a mistake, you are the one to taste the sweetness of it all. Ouch! Nobody tells you sorry.

You persevere the emotional pain. You solve your problems alone. "Hardcore." You call yourself that. Though, deep down you are losing yourself.

People call it nature. I call it the burden in disguise.

Firstborn! Firstborn! Firstborn!